Comments for Blessed Are the Barren http://blessedarethebarren.wordpress.com One woman's search for meaning in infertility Sun, 06 Sep 2009 18:12:52 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on About me by Deziree http://blessedarethebarren.wordpress.com/about/#comment-75 Deziree Sun, 06 Sep 2009 18:12:52 +0000 #comment-75 I had a long conversation with my husband last night. He told me this 'baby' thing was consuming my life. My attitude toward him and others was not good and I needed help. So this morning I woke up looking for help. I happen to stumble across this website. You have put into words what I was feeling. I had no idea how to articulate what I was struggling with. Now that I have read this and a few of your entries I understand. Before I found this blog I kept telling myself God has a plan, He knows what he is doing. I am so scared that I will not be able to have children. I just realized this last night. Your blog has helped me to understand that motherhood does not make me who I am or who I am not. Thank you for blessing me! I had a long conversation with my husband last night. He told me this ‘baby’ thing was consuming my life. My attitude toward him and others was not good and I needed help. So this morning I woke up looking for help. I happen to stumble across this website. You have put into words what I was feeling. I had no idea how to articulate what I was struggling with. Now that I have read this and a few of your entries I understand. Before I found this blog I kept telling myself God has a plan, He knows what he is doing. I am so scared that I will not be able to have children. I just realized this last night. Your blog has helped me to understand that motherhood does not make me who I am or who I am not. Thank you for blessing me!

]]> Comment on The ultimate and the ideal? by Deziree http://blessedarethebarren.wordpress.com/2008/01/30/the-ultimate-and-the-ideal/#comment-74 Deziree Sun, 06 Sep 2009 18:03:39 +0000 http://blessedarethebarren.wordpress.com/?p=19#comment-74 You have put into words what I was feeling. Thank you so much. You have put into words what I was feeling. Thank you so much.

]]> Comment on The ultimate and the ideal? by what to say « stream of continuousness http://blessedarethebarren.wordpress.com/2008/01/30/the-ultimate-and-the-ideal/#comment-72 what to say « stream of continuousness Mon, 17 Aug 2009 13:00:52 +0000 http://blessedarethebarren.wordpress.com/?p=19#comment-72 [...] do yourself a huge favor.  Read this blog post from a friend of mine.  It address some theological and cultural hurdles that infertile women face in the church.  It [...] [...] do yourself a huge favor.  Read this blog post from a friend of mine.  It address some theological and cultural hurdles that infertile women face in the church.  It [...]

]]> Comment on Are you in a stable? by what to say « stream of continuousness http://blessedarethebarren.wordpress.com/2007/12/13/are-you-in-a-stable/#comment-71 what to say « stream of continuousness Mon, 17 Aug 2009 12:42:43 +0000 http://blessedarethebarren.wordpress.com/2007/12/13/are-you-in-a-stable/#comment-71 [...] back when I was going through the whole IVF process, after the second try failed, a dear freind pointed me to a post by this woman named Missy.  It was a Christmas post about how Mary hadn’t [...] [...] back when I was going through the whole IVF process, after the second try failed, a dear freind pointed me to a post by this woman named Missy.  It was a Christmas post about how Mary hadn’t [...]

]]> Comment on Am I a fraud? by mjharvell http://blessedarethebarren.wordpress.com/2008/01/25/am-i-a-fraud/#comment-63 mjharvell Tue, 27 Jan 2009 20:05:09 +0000 http://blessedarethebarren.wordpress.com/?p=18#comment-63 Thank you so much for opening and sharing your heart - the transparency is beautiful! I have some family, friends and congregation going through this right now and I plan on forwarding them to your blog! I have said a special prayer for you today - God Bless & Press On! Thank you so much for opening and sharing your heart – the transparency is beautiful! I have some family, friends and congregation going through this right now and I plan on forwarding them to your blog! I have said a special prayer for you today – God Bless & Press On!

]]> Comment on The ultimate and the ideal? by bonnie http://blessedarethebarren.wordpress.com/2008/01/30/the-ultimate-and-the-ideal/#comment-62 bonnie Wed, 21 Jan 2009 04:46:58 +0000 http://blessedarethebarren.wordpress.com/?p=19#comment-62 I found your blog today, and I wanted to say thanks for your writings. It is so encouraging to hear from a mature Christian woman, faithfully following God along the path of infertility and childlessness. I'm taking my first steps along that path as my husband and I begin treatment, and the few posts I've read on your blog have encouraged me and rebuked me. They were just what I needed to hear. I found your blog today, and I wanted to say thanks for your writings.

It is so encouraging to hear from a mature Christian woman, faithfully following God along the path of infertility and childlessness. I’m taking my first steps along that path as my husband and I begin treatment, and the few posts I’ve read on your blog have encouraged me and rebuked me. They were just what I needed to hear.

]]> Comment on About me by Kari http://blessedarethebarren.wordpress.com/about/#comment-61 Kari Tue, 06 Jan 2009 16:23:13 +0000 #comment-61 I don't know where to start. I'm glad I got the courage to find your site, as I sit here and ball my eyes out. It's a rollercoaster, though I thought I was doing pretty good at accepting the way God created me. I am 31. Married now for 5 years to the best husband I could ever have. 16 years ago I found out I could never have children. I was born without a uterus. So during my teenage years I rebelled and struggled with my emotions. Since then I've accepted the fact that I can never have children. The trials come when family doesn't understand, nor wants to. My mother always says the wrong things and my brother and his wife finally brought grandchildren into the picture. And since I don't have any children, my sister in law says we really don't have anything in common. Sorry I'm on a soapbox. The good news, is that the Lord is good. Yes, this is a continual crisis in my life, however, I am so thankful I have a relationship with the Lord to carry me through (and the best husband in the world). 3 summers ago while on my back for several months from a back injury, the Lord gave me a song. "Wonderful Creator, Merciful Lord, you are my refuge, you are my strength, you are my joy when all around me is pain. Wonderful Creator, Merciful Lord, and I cry Lord, why my frailties, and I cry, Lord, why my abnormalities? You say, my child, what is this? I have made you perfect for my plan." A simple trust. Holding onto truths that we don't completely understand. Then what is my purpose in life? To be the best at what He has given to me. To be the best wife, the best daughter, sister, sister-in-law, niece and aunt, friend. How? Let Him live through me. Not to allow the selfish pain harden my heart which in turn keeps me heading in the other direction, the path of destruction. I do pray the Lord will bring a good, godly girlfriend into my life. I ask for you to pray for me. Thank you for your website. Thank you for sharing your heart. Something I vow to do more of this new year. God bless you, your marriage and your work, Kari I don’t know where to start. I’m glad I got the courage to find your site, as I sit here and ball my eyes out. It’s a rollercoaster, though I thought I was doing pretty good at accepting the way God created me. I am 31. Married now for 5 years to the best husband I could ever have. 16 years ago I found out I could never have children. I was born without a uterus. So during my teenage years I rebelled and struggled with my emotions. Since then I’ve accepted the fact that I can never have children. The trials come when family doesn’t understand, nor wants to. My mother always says the wrong things and my brother and his wife finally brought grandchildren into the picture. And since I don’t have any children, my sister in law says we really don’t have anything in common. Sorry I’m on a soapbox.
The good news, is that the Lord is good. Yes, this is a continual crisis in my life, however, I am so thankful I have a relationship with the Lord to carry me through (and the best husband in the world). 3 summers ago while on my back for several months from a back injury, the Lord gave me a song. “Wonderful Creator, Merciful Lord, you are my refuge, you are my strength, you are my joy when all around me is pain. Wonderful Creator, Merciful Lord, and I cry Lord, why my frailties, and I cry, Lord, why my abnormalities? You say, my child, what is this? I have made you perfect for my plan.”
A simple trust. Holding onto truths that we don’t completely understand. Then what is my purpose in life? To be the best at what He has given to me. To be the best wife, the best daughter, sister, sister-in-law, niece and aunt, friend. How? Let Him live through me. Not to allow the selfish pain harden my heart which in turn keeps me heading in the other direction, the path of destruction.
I do pray the Lord will bring a good, godly girlfriend into my life. I ask for you to pray for me.
Thank you for your website. Thank you for sharing your heart. Something I vow to do more of this new year.
God bless you, your marriage and your work,
Kari

]]> Comment on Am I a fraud? by Judy http://blessedarethebarren.wordpress.com/2008/01/25/am-i-a-fraud/#comment-59 Judy Wed, 09 Apr 2008 00:15:46 +0000 http://blessedarethebarren.wordpress.com/?p=18#comment-59 After finding out of one more friend's miracle conception, I felt the need to read this post again. Your honest admission of all your feelings inspires me to keep living honestly. Bless you! After finding out of one more friend’s miracle conception, I felt the need to read this post again. Your honest admission of all your feelings inspires me to keep living honestly. Bless you!

]]> Comment on The ultimate and the ideal? by Jess http://blessedarethebarren.wordpress.com/2008/01/30/the-ultimate-and-the-ideal/#comment-58 Jess Mon, 31 Mar 2008 11:39:39 +0000 http://blessedarethebarren.wordpress.com/?p=19#comment-58 Thank you so much for your words. God led me here to your blog today because I needed to read that. I want to read more - and I will - but I have to let this post sink in first. You've blessed me tremendously today. Thank you. Thank you so much for your words. God led me here to your blog today because I needed to read that. I want to read more – and I will – but I have to let this post sink in first. You’ve blessed me tremendously today. Thank you.

]]> Comment on Infertility hurts by PASTOR RODNEY THOMAS http://blessedarethebarren.wordpress.com/2007/12/03/infertility-hurts/#comment-57 PASTOR RODNEY THOMAS Thu, 13 Mar 2008 21:24:31 +0000 http://blessedarethebarren.wordpress.com/2007/12/03/infertility-hurts/#comment-57 God Bless you! I just wanted to refer you to a book that my wife just wrote and it is called Infertility Hurts: You are not alone! It is availble to help coupls and women who are dealing with this sensitive topic. For more info you can check out: http://www.xulonpress.com <strong><em>Gentle readers, for the record, I rather objected to someone using my blog as an advertisement for their product, but in the end I decided to post this comment in case this book did help other women out there. Please do not consider this an endorsement of any kind. ~Trish God Bless! God Bless you! I just wanted to refer you to a book that my wife just wrote and it is called Infertility Hurts: You are not alone!

It is availble to help coupls and women who are dealing with this sensitive topic.

For more info you can check out:

http://www.xulonpress.com

Gentle readers, for the record, I rather objected to someone using my blog as an advertisement for their product, but in the end I decided to post this comment in case this book did help other women out there. Please do not consider this an endorsement of any kind. ~Trish

God Bless!

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