There’s no doubt about it: the holidays are some of the hardest days to handle when you are struggling with infertility. No matter how we try to focus our thoughts on Christ and God’s plan in the world, there is bound to be that incident, that comment, that moment when our grief breaks through and whisks our hearts away from the babe in the manger to the babe we wanted so much, and never knew.
Because there’s not any getting around the pain of our infertility, we must learn to anticipate those occaisions that are likely to stir up those agonized feelings and learn how to cope with them when they face us down.
I found this newsletter on dealing with infertility during the holidays on the RESOLVE website, and thought it was valuable enough to share with my readers. In fact, I needed some of these reminders, too. I hope that it gives you some help in dealing with the particular stress and pain that the holiday season can bring in its wake. It’s a pain that our families and friends often won’t understand, but be assured, you are not alone. Please keep me in your prayers, and I will do the same for you.
In other news, I have posted one of our new family holiday traditions on my other blog. It’s a silly thing, but I have found that whatever brings me laughter and joy brings me one step closer to healing. You know, whatever it takes…

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December 12, 2007 at 10:41 am
screamofcontinuousness
I read that article. It had some useful things in it, but I don’t like the idea of going away to enjoy the holidays. I think I can get through this and still spend the time with my family. I’m trying to learn to value my nieces and nephews more as part of My Family.
I did like the portion about finding other ways to relate to Christmas since I’m not (and will never be) a biological mom. *that* was powerful.
Deirdre
December 13, 2007 at 12:31 am
Jen
I read the newsletter too. I didn’t like most of it but I LOVED the article on “Beyond the Madonna and Child” or something to that effect. Very challenging! Thank you for sharing!!
Jen